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Posts archive for: June, 2008
  • Sunday 22nd June 2008

    Hello again,

    Despite the awful weather we have, I'm quite happy today. It has been a difficult week trying to get our heads around what has been happening to us. Each day, it has gotten a bit better thankfully.

    As planned, I phoned the clinic on Friday there. Our case was up for discussion at a clinical meeting. They decided that we have to proceed with cycle 2 of the treatment with no changes. They said we could just carry on or leave it for afew months. I said we would carry on.

    I just have to wait for my period and then phone for booking dates for the down-regulation bit again.

    I'm scared but also quite excited about going again. I thought we'd have had to wait for afew months but we are glad to carry on from now. I just need to try and lose the weight I put on through the drugs and comfort eating!!!!! I reckon I have about 6-8 weeks to get my act together with that so I'll start afresh tomorrow using my weight watchers stuff again.

    I phoned my union office during the week and they spoke with HR department and said I was to get Special Leave for my next treatment - I'll believe it when I see it. I hope to speak with my boss before we start because I do not want the carry on we have just had again.

    My sick line is up this Friday. I was thinking of going back early but DH and the rest of my family said it would be a good idea to rest and get myself properly ready to return and I think I have to agree with them.

    I have just been pottering about. I've not been out very much and haven't felt like it at times to be honest. I am hoping to get out a bit more during this week.

    Yesterday DH and I, along with our 2 wee doggies; packed some beers and icecreams and went to a wonderful chippy which sits in the harbour. We then went along to the sea-front to eat them. It was lovely, apart from my youngest dog was REALLY playing up, being REALLY naughty and barking the whole time!!!! Needless to say when we got home, he went into his bed for a bit. We couldn't get angry with him because he kept making us laugh.

    Today I cooked us a nice dinner and we have basically just hung around the house on account of the awful weather.

    I'm sure that the next few weeks will pass quickly. I just hope that we can get booked for our treatment first time around again so we don't have to wait around another month.....Let's hope it's 2nd time lucky for us!

    Will keep you posted.................

    L,xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

  • Tuesday 17th June 2008

    We went to the clinic this morning as was planned. I couldn't get to sleep last night and when I eventually did, I absentmindedly put my alarm off and we slept in! After a mad dash, quick shower,etc, we drove up and were only about 20 minutes late.

    We saw one of the nurses we saw before who was lovely. We explained about what has been happening since Sunday and she agreed that it was highly unlikely that our test results would be good news.

    She spoke with us for a while and explained afew things to us and we had a chat about the stress I had been under with work and all. She used to work in the same place as me and so was aware of how awful they are to their employees.

    I gave the staff a card with some money in, today for their next or Christmas night out. Regardless of what has just happened to us, we are truly grateful for everything they have done to help us so far. They must get so much job satisfaction in doing what they do - a bit like finding a needle in a haystack finding a job like that nowadays within healthcare!

    We got home and I have been really quiet. I'm knackered and feel so run down. I wish I could get a decent sleep. I think that one of the reasons I don't is that I'm frightened to wake up with the realisation of what has happened again. I guess we just have to remain as positive as we can for the time being.

    The nurse called us there after 2pm to confirm what we already knew. She explained that my case would be discussed at the next clinical meeting which is on Friday this week. Apparently, they look at what they could do differently for future attempts. I can only surmise that that would mean alterations to the drug regimes and or possibly more investigations. So we have to call this Friday after 1pm to find out what happens next for us.

    Thankfully, I still have a bit of time left off work to get myself fit again (the GP gave me a line on Friday and boy am I glad I did now after Sunday). I did toy with the idea of going back earlier but DH thinks it would be wise just to take it easy and I think I need to agree with him on that score. I do need to get some things sorted out at work so that I don't have the same carry on next time. The less stress I have, the better chance we might have next time around if we choose to go ahead.

    Love,
    L,xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

  • Monday 16th June 2008

    Hi again,

    I'm not in a good place at the moment. I have got horrible period pains and the bleeding got stronger and fresher through yesterday.

    I have been crying intermittently all day and all of last night. I didn't go to bed last night, I lay on the couch watching television all night. I went into bed about 5:30am, only to be awoken by my alarm - to take my pessary. It really hurt - it made my period pain worse and was unpleasant to do in itself (I won't go in to any detail).

    I went for a bath this morning, not had one since my embryo transfer. I just lay there staring in to space. I was alone most of the day as DH went back to work with his own heavy heart. He came home for lunch and my Dad also popped in to see me. My Mum has phoned twice.

    DH was crying last night. He went to get me chocolate from the shop and saw a new Mum with her new baby and it upset him. It took all day for me to get him to accept what was happening. Other members of my family yesterday kept saying that it was ok and that they knew people who were pregnant and had periods. I know this was only to make me feel better but it made me angry. I didn't say anything, just paid them back with the same lip service.

    In the eyes of many, I was never pregnant. However, in my own and of some others, I WAS and I lost my 2 little babies yesterday. I'll never meet them, teach them things, make them laugh, comfort them or ever be their hero. They have simply gone as quickly as they came and took my hopes and dreams along with them.

    I don't know how I will be tomorrow. We have to go to the clinic for the test which I feel is a total waste of time and the little energy I have left but they all want me to go so I really have no choice. I know what I dearly want in this world but I truly don't know if I can go back to try again only for the risk of this happening to us again.

    I'll come back tomorrow again and tell you how things went.

    Take care,
    Love,
    L,xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

  • Sunday 15th June 2008 - Father's Day

    Well, I started to bleed this morning at 11am. I've also got really sore period pains and feel unwell with it.

    The bleeding isn't much but I'm not prepared to kid myself any longer. I just keep asking why? What have I ever done to deserve this to happen? It's just not fair.

    DH keeps saying that it's nothing and that everything will be ok but why go through a hopeless charade - again like we have been doing for nearly 4 years.

    There is one blessing in this - that the GP I saw on Friday had the sense to sign me off. I would have been due at work today. They would have made me carry on with work and given me heaps of attitude.

    I feel sorry for my poor dear husband who feels awful but is trying to stay strong for me.

    I will post back as and when I know more. I did afterall promise to be honest. This whole process is one of the hardest you will ever go through in your life and one that takes great courage and strength.

    Love,
    L,xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

  • Thursday 12th May 2008

    Hello again,

    I'm still waiting and with every day I'm getting more and more anxious.

    2 days ago I started to feel nauseated in the evenings. I am also noticing my breasts increasingly growing and changing. I've been feeling so tired all week too. These symptoms could be down to the pessaries I am using so it's all very confusing for me.

    I also do not have any previous experience of pregnancy so that makes it all the more difficult.

    Yesterday, I started getting lower abdo period pains - dull cramps with occasional sharp pains. Then last night I felt really unwell and I had alot of pain from my L buttock down my leg to my foot. I tend to get this when I'm due to take a period. I cried so much and so hard last night thinking that this was it.........it might all be over.

    Today, I feel tired. No leg pain but dull lower abdo period cramps again. I feel surprising more optimistic and calmer today, more grounded I feel than yesterday. I am however, still really scared. I don't want this to end. I thank god every time I go to the toilet and everything is alright.

    I went along for some spiritual healing on Tuesday there and then yesterday, went for Acupuncture. The therapist did a holding treatment which was very relaxing. I also have angel cards which I have consulted every day and I have repeatedly pulled out the same cards which all seem hopeful.

    I guess now, we just have to wait and see what fate beings to our door and can only hope and pray that it is what we have been waiting for for so long that arrives for us.

    Love,
    L,xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

  • Sunday 8th June 2008

    Hi again,

    Sorry it has taken me afew days to get back on to report what's happening. I've been quite tired with everything which is understandable.

    Well, where do I start? Yes, we went for egg collection last Monday morning (2nd). I felt nervous but used my acupuncture needles in my ears and some Reiki to keep me calm. We attended the ACS Suite this time as opposed to the clinic area where we had been attending previously.

    I went to theatre late morning. They tried to put a needle in my L arm which quickly became sore and swollen whenthey started to infuse the sedation drugs. To let you understand, my veins are not very good and the needle they had put in was running into the tissues of my arm. Not at all their fault, these things can happen - I remember it well from my days of working in Haematology where veins were used so much, they became scarce and difficult to access.

    They recannulated in my R hand and infused the drugs, no probs this time. I began to feel really chilled out and almost asleep but I was aware of many things going on, but I wasn't too bothered by anything. In fact, I recall talking alot of nonsense and was unable to be quiet, a bit like I am if I'm drunk!!!! I felt some pain at afew times but was short-lived. Before I knew it, the procedure was over and I rested in Recovery. As I became more alert, my stomach was really sore so the nurse gave me a strong painkiller - Dihydrocodeine and an IV antisickness called Ondansetron.

    DH came through to be with me, I was given tea and sandwiches which I really enjoyed then I got dressed - I was desperate to get home.
    Before we left, we were taken in to a small consulting room by the nurse who had looked after me alot during my stay - Joanne, she was lovely - they are all really lovely people there and are fantastic at their jobs. She told us that they had yielded 8 eggs from me and gave us instructions to follow for when I was at home. They also gave me a leaflet with information written on it - good idea since I wasn't quite back from my sedation yet!

    She told us to phone at a given time the next day to see if fertilisation had taken place, then said if we were successful with this, we'd be back on Wednesday for Embryo Transfer.

    We got home and I was starving! I ate some sandwiches and then fell asleep for a while. Then my Mum came and was crying - she's been really worried about us and desperate for our treatment to work.
    I was pretty sore that night and was taking Cocodamol. I was drinking alot of fluids as I had been, the hospital advised me to keep this up.

    Tuesday morning, I phoned to the lab as I was instructed. The embryologist I spoke to was lovely.......... We had 3 normal embryos! From the 8 eggs, 6 were suitable and were injected with sperm. Again we were reminding to return the next day for transfer.

    We had mixed feelings on Tuesday. We had planned for transfer of 2 embryos and knew they wouldn't freeze 1 on it's own. We didn't know whether just to use 1, but said it would be dependant on how much sperm there was left.

    Wednesday afternoon, we attended the unit again. We were quite nervous, DH was coming in to theatre with me this time.
    I got in to a gown and hat, DH wore a long green theatre gown, hat and plastic over shoe covers - we joked that they were like action man body bags, like in Alan Partridge!!!!!

    We walked in to theatre, I sat at the window and told the embryologist my name and date of birth. The Dr then spoke with the embryologist and spoke to us. She had 2 embryos ready for transfer, a Grade 1 and a Grade 2 (Grade 1 is the highest of Grades 1-4). We were informed that only one straw of our sperm had been used and we had 3 remaining. She said that from the 1 straw, that there were quite afew motile sperm which was also good news.

    I lay on the the theatre table and a speculum was inserted like a smear test. I HATE this, I felt myself twitching down below and worried I would spit the embryos back out! DH held my hand as the Dr inserted a long thin catheter in through my cervix and placed the embryos then the procedure was complete. I explained that I was still really sore from Monday and that morning had had severe lower abdominal pain. The Dr examined me and said to keep an eye on it, if no better/worse, to let them know but I was to continue drinking alot of fluids. I got a sample of urine sent off to the lab to check for infection.

    I got dressed and a nurse came in to talk to us. She explained that I needed to use Progesterone pessaries vaginally twice daily/12 hourly for 12 days. We were given an appointment for clinic for our outcome blood test for Tuesday 17th June. We left and came home thereafter.

    I have rested pretty much since Wednesday afternoon, I'm still even slightly sore today, but each day it improves. As it is, we now only have 9 days to wait to find out what the outcome is. The pessaries have given me alot of wind too!!!!

    It's been a variable few days so far. I have at times been convinced that my period was going to start but seemingly this is normal. I have had slight nausea but could be side effect from the pessaries. I'm also really tired, but then alot has happened within the last week and I'm still taking it all in.

    On top of this, my work have been quite unreasonable with me. After saying I could take holidays, I've been told I now can't have what I need and now have to work all next weekend and Monday evening until 1am when we have to be at clinic before 9am! The lack of sleep aside, I'm going to be thinking of nothing else but what will happen the next day. I think it's cruel and had any of them experienced what we have just been going thorugh, I'm sure they would have a different outlook. It's high time that what we all go through is recognised for what it is and we are cut a bit of slack. Enough about this now!

    I'm trying to remain positive and keep telling myself that I am pregnant now. DH goes back to wrok tomorrow so the time will go in a bit slower now I think, but we will wait and see. I keep praying and asking for our dreams to come true, nearly every hour of the day so far. I only hope someone is listening.......................

    Love,
    L,xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

  • Wednesday 4th June

    Hi again,

    Not forgotten to update - just been really hectic past few days.
    I had embryo transfer today with DH at my side, went well.

    I will post all the details tomorrow as I'm quite tired tonight,

    Love,
    L,xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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